As I continue to share what God has done in my life, to give me healing, I need to be very honest with the fact that God placed me in a safe place to learn the lessons He needed to teach me. He called me to action to accomplish this. God tells us, “So that He sets on high those who are lowly, And those who mourn are lifted to SAFETY.” Job 5:11. As Ive reflected on the course of my former, abusive, marriage, God has revealed to me how I rationalized, minimized, justified and denied the extremely painful life I lived. I hated the torment of that life but felt completely powerless to make healthy changes so I would pretend it wasn’t “that bad!” I would have loads of self-pity parties and felt paralyzed! I was terrified of taking action to stop the insanity. It didnt matter how bad things were, the filthy names I was called, the violence, the destroyed doors, appliances, house hold items,(caused by my ex’s rages)as well as, the verbal, emotional, and mental anguish I endured, I could NOT see how to be FREE! I dishonestly believed I could do nothing to create a better life for me and my kids. I was in CRONIC FEAR!! Because of my twisted thinking, I felt this treatment was somehow what I deserved. ALL LIES!! Jesus says, “The Spirit of the Lord is on Me, because He has anointed Me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent Me to proclaim DELIVERANCE TO THE CAPTIVES and recovery of sight to the blind, to release the oppressed.” Luke 4:18. I deeply understand the plight of abused women. We feel as though we are captives to these relationships. This applies to unmarried women in abusive situations as well. We are usually told we are worthless and completely incapable of surviving without this person and we believe it! BUT that is not TRUTH! TRUTH is that God IS and WILL provide ALL WE NEED! God reminds us, “Why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are! And if God cares so wonderfully for wildflowers, that are here today and thrown into the fire tomorrow, he will CERTAINLY CARE FOR YOU! Why do you have so little faith?” Matt 6:28-30. We MUST learn to trust God NOT a human being for our provision! HE IS FAITHFUL! Stepping out in faith opens amazing doors for God to work in our lives! No matter WHAT the issue is we are struggling with. It doesn’t have to be an abusive marriage, it can be ANYTHING that we are not trusting God with. God wants to CHANGE OUR HEARTS! If you are in an abusive situation, PRAY FOR GOD TO GIVE YOU CLARITY and freedom! God Can and does deliver abusers if they are willing to allow Him to do so! BUT if they refuse to let God work in their heart, He doesn’t expect people to stay in abusive relationships! “So if the son has set you FREE, you are free indeed!” John 8:36. We are never free in abuse! God does NOT condone men abusing women OR vise versa! God wants us to be servants to Him and others. If we are in dangerous relationships, how effective can we be? If you or someone you know is in the situation I was in, you are welcome to reach out to me! I’m passionate about helping others find freedom is Jesus!
God Bless you all!